How do you see Yourself?

In a mirror?

Ok, joking aside – it is meant to be a serious question.

One of my children produced  this great piece of graffiti art as a Christmas present for me recently. It pretty much sums up my role as a high school teacher for the last 15 years- a fun-loving & zany person who likes being a bit off-the-wall (to put it mildly!).

But my 3 kids also know that persona is only part of the picture. It’s the same for each and everyone of us.

Who we choose to be is ultimately up to us.

We can choose to be grumpy, hard-bitten by our circumstances and regretful of our mistakes.

Or, we can choose to find something to be thankful for in what we experience every day.

You might think that’s just an idealistic thing to say from someone who knows nothing about the situation that you are going through right now.

Well, it’s true: I don’t know what you are going through. But I do know this. I can choose how I respond to what’s happening. I can create my own frame of mind- some would go as far as to say, I can create my own reality.

Which ever way you want to describe it, you have a choice. Sometimes making that choice is more challenging than at other times.

But I know that I can make that choice on how I see myself, and how I see my circumstances.

They present challenges. But they also present opportunities, and it’s up to me how I play the script in my mind.

Make the new decade one in which you choose to have courage and belief in the face of your circumstances. You have the potential to become who you want to be, and to do what you want to do.

You can make it happen.

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Things Ain't always What They Seem…

Here’s a funny story.

I was staying in an inn with family for a short trip to see relatives recently. We got to our room late at night, so in the morning I was dog tired from the journey and lack of sleep.

So I decided to take a shower to get the blood flowing again. I pulled back the shower curtain and noticed that it was an electric shower, with it’s own heater.

Now I don’t know about you, but when I see electric showers, I always groan inwardly: “Aw no, it’s gonna be a dribble…that ain’t gonna wake me up!”.

From the title of this post, you’ve probably already guessed where I’m heading with what I’m about to tell you next.

I was wrong. Dead wrong. In fact, I was so completely wrong, I ended up laughing to myself as I got blasted by the jet of hot water that blasted my tired head.

It was one of the best showers I’ve had.

Here’s the funniest thing though: the following place we stayed, also in the same chain of inns, the shower looked the part. Big cubicle. Large shower head. But the water just dribbled out.

I know you’re thinking that I must be exaggerating here. But I’m not. It was as if the message was being drummed home to me like nobody’s business:

Don’t be fooled by how things look. 99 times out of a hundred you may be right. But you don’t know that your past experience will be a good enough guide for what happens today.

So don’t use past experience to pre-judge the way things will pan out with what’s happening to you now. Otherwise you’ll miss out on possibly what could be pretty amazing.

Dez .

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UK unemployment climbs to 2.47m‎

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What should you do to avoid the slide into poverty through forced redundancy?

How will you manage your debt when your income looks set to become uncertain?

These and many other questions are undoubtedly being asked by many people today across the United Kingdom, as the official figures released by the government  show how fragile and unstable our current economic model has become in the face of the global economic metropolis that we are now all part of.

The biggest question each one of us needs to answer is: what will I do to avoid the increasing likelihood of long term poverty, the likes of which we haven’t known since the 1940’s and 1950’s?

The only viable answer, as I’ve previously blogged, is to become financially independent through entrepreneurship. The illusion of a guaranteed job for life was shattered a long time ago, but now we are faced with the distinct possibility of there being no real jobs of any economic value for many of us.

What are you doing about this dilemma?

If you don’t have a plan B yet, get one now.

 

If you’re new to internet or network marketing, you might be amongst those who’ve started purely for financial reasons.

You might be in a situation of immanent or recent redundancy, or you might just be fed up living from pay check to pay check.

If that’s you, then perhaps the last thing on your mind right now is how you can use your money to help others, and that’s very reasonable.

But let’s project forwards in time, to say 6 months or a year from now. Depending on the business you’ve started, and your own financial thermostat, you could be earning 5 or perhaps even 6 figures per month. At the moment, this might seem like pure fantasy, and I’ll get into why it might seem like that another time.

For now, let’s imagine that you’ve been able to give up your day job, and money is no longer a worry. What do you do now?

It’s no great secret that we all need to have a bigger purpose in life. Most of us who’ve been around for a while know that. But what if you’ve not found a purpose, other than to have financial freedom? What do you do now? Do you simply aim to earn even more money? Will that help you find your purpose?

Clearly no. It’s easy to see that now. But if you put off thinking about it for too long, you could become amongst those who never discover a meaningful purpose, or mission, in life. Having a mission might sound strange, but really I’m just talking about having a goal that’s bigger than you – something that will excite you and create a sense of fulfilment in you that grows as you put your time and effort into it.

If you make money itself to be your primary purpose or mission – perhaps so that you can gain status or recognition from others – then you’ll be very likely to be in for a nasty shock down the line sometime. Money itself can never produce a sense of worth. In fact, the opposite can be true: the more money you have, the more meaningless your life can easily seem, if you’re not careful.

At first, this might seem a strange end-point to reach, especially if you come from a difficult financial situation, or a poor background.

But it’s important to think about now. One reason why this undesirable outcome can can occur is because money ultimately brings financial and personal independence. But that’s all it does. Wealth, on the other hand, brings freedom – freedom to you, and to people around you.

Robert Kiyosaki (of Rich Dad, Poor Dad fame), is well known for his pithy saying: “Money flows. It has velocity”.

It’s where the money flows to that is important.

Your wealth is really what’s inside you – inside your thinking, in how you deal with people, in what you think about life. It’s not how much money you have.

That’s why you need to think about a bigger purpose – something higher to aim for, that’s bigger than you. It’s fundamental to how human relationships flourish. Your true wealth can only really be measured by how many lives you positively affect, not how much money there is in your bank account.

You might be scoffing at this, perhaps thinking “It’s OK for him, he doesn’t know what it’s like being broke”. Well, as I write this, I do. I know all too well what it’s like. I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to wake up in the middle of the night suddenly, wondering whether or not I’ve gone over my over-draught limit on my bank account yet again.

Or hoping that the economy won’t affect my job.

What I’m saying is this: if you’ve haven’t done this yet, start thinking about bigger dreams than just the personal ones. Yes, think about the fun things you’d like to do with your new-found financial independence – plan on having fun, and lots of it (you’ve almost certainly got some catch-up time here!). But also think about something outside of your own personal or family relationships too.

The bigger your dream, the more wealth you’ll have to offer others.

That’s where real fulfilment happens.

Don’t wait until you have financial independence to start thinking about these things. By then it might be too difficult to change the direction things seem to be moving in.

I’m not saying you have to have your gameplan mapped out in minute detail now – after all, you’ve possibly got genuinely pressing circumstances dominating your thinking right now.

All I’m saying is: start giving your mission or purpose some consideration now. It’ll help you keep going when you get setbacks and difficulties like nothing else can, and more importantly, it will be an important part of the groundwork for ultimate fulfilment for you & others in the times ahead.

Getting the Rocket Off The Ground

Getting the Rocket off the Ground

Getting the Rocket off the Ground

Sometimes, getting started in something new can seem like a very frustrating experience: you spend a lot of time and energy building the foundations of your business/career/whatever, and yet there doesn’t seem much to show for your efforts. Whilst there are possible quick ways to build, they often involve an initial upfront financial outlay that is beyond people’s cashflow, and there’s no guarantee that you’ll have the technical skills needed to make such high octane methods actually work.

I’m not saying that it’s not possible – you just need to be careful that you don’t try & get the rocket off the ground before it’s ready. If you think of all the preparation that goes into a typical rocket launch – the number of people involved, the careful preparation, the seeming endless checking & re-checking, maybe it’ll help you from letting impatience get the better of the sober judgment that can be all too easily thrown out of the window for the sake of some possible shortcut.

Most of the fatal historical space missions were, after all, much to do with people trying to take shortcuts. So don’t you fall into the same trap when considering amazing opportunities.

Don’t skip on the preparation. It may seem slow, and sometimes it’s hard to maintain your focus when you don’t see the outcome of your efforts soon, but remember that the most amazing things take the longest to build. Or get to the launch phase, ready for take-off.

Lastly, (as I’m a physicist by training!) – don’t forget that the rocket has the most mass at launch…it only starts really accelerating once quite a bit of the fuel has been used…then things start to change at an amazng pace 🙂